I despise flying, but in order to accomplish my goals and responsibilities, I have no choice. Sometimes I swear that this is the last time I am going to fly, but I guess it is like childbirth. Afterwards you forget.
Now that I have discovered the ToP Methods and Focused Conversation, my flying is much more tolerable. I used to hear voices like, “why are you here, you know you don’t like flying, you should have went to work at Walmart like your mother told you, you will never get to your destination, you should have driven, and on and on and on.”
My new self talk goes more like this!
Yes, I am on a flight that is a little bumpy. There are lots of other people on this flight. We are all going to the same location separately together.
The last 10 times I flew it was bumpy too. There are not too many flights that are not bumpy.
I get nervous when the flight is bumpy. I feel helpless because I don’t know how long the pilot has been flying or if he is sleeping up there. I think every flight should be smooth with no bumps.
Instead of getting nervous about something I have no control over, I will practice my meditation techniques and slow breathing. I will try and laugh about the fact that I know there is more likelihood that someone will die of a heart attack worrying about the plane than there is getting injured during the flight. I will remember that the air is not empty and it is full of pockets of different types of air. I will remember how much worse I hate riding in a car!
You have just experienced an ORID structured conversation with myself. Self talk that is taking it from a potential hysterical down spiral to a facilitated reasonable conversation with a direction that I can work on.
To learn how to use these conversations at work, home or alone, sign up for a Technology of Participation Facilitation Methods. You can find the classes at the TopTraining website. in fact, if you want to combine a class with a trip to Orlando, there is class on October 9- 10th in Orlando.
See you at the airport!